fishin and relationships

[CTFSHWHISKER]

the video on the front page makes me realize i am not alone in this situation so i thought i'd ask,how many of us on here have a problemed relationship or failed one,marriage or not due to the fishin drug.I have been told the first time i go to a tournament i will recieve divorce papers,she even gets ticked if i go all night with my dad.How can this be dealt with,I went from going every weekend to getting to go about 9 time all last year and with drawls are killing me,i get irritated and very grouchy if i don't get my fishin fix.she even keeps a log of how long i'm gone. help from others that have had this problem..

[MsgMills]

Oh man, you got it bad....Everyone needs time away from their spouse, the time away only strengthens the relationship I believe. But come on, divorce papers if you want to fish a Tournament!!!! But some wives who watch the money expenditures for the family, are just trying to keep the family above water so to speak and the excess fishing expenses could drain the account somewhat....

Maybe closer to home fishing trips could help solve the problem a little bit, or getting a fishing buddy to help with half the expenses for you both to go together....Then the expenses might not be that bad in her eyes.... Just a thought or two, maybe something else will pop up and help you out.

[mhall]

the video on the front page makes me realize i am not alone in this situation so i thought i'd ask,how many of us on here have a problemed relationship or failed one,marriage or not due to the fishin drug.I have been told the first time i go to a tournament i will recieve divorce papers,she even gets ticked if i go all night with my dad.How can this be dealt with,I went from going every weekend to getting to go about 9 time all last year and with drawls are killing me,i get irritated and very grouchy if i don't get my fishin fix.she even keeps a log of how long i'm gone. help from others that have had this problem..

Do what I did, GO ANYWAY, they will get over it, mine did. I look at it like this I probably am not gonna live to be real old. My family doesn't have a great track record going at all. I love my family with a passion but I'm truely at a special place when I'm fishing, one I'm not smart enough to put into words but I think you guys know what I mean. I could be out drinking all night looking for women, bar hopping, gambling, I can go on, but instead I'm fishing. I'm not trying to sound cocky, and yes there are plenty of times that I must do other things in compromise, but I ain't gonna quit fishing, that you can count on. I give plenty of notice, usually, lol, and I'm GONE.

[ChampioNinKY]

If I don't go for awhile my wife asks what the problem is. This year I was having trouble finding a partner for the club and she said she would do it if I could'nt find someone. I quit looking my sleeping arrangements will be alot better this year and there won't be any hurt feelings if we fish my spots. Shes a KEEPER.

Jerry Cole

[elnutsmalljaws]

Fishin has made my marriage better. It allows me to spend time with my wife, who likes to fish, plus we can spend time together with our son on the water as he gets a little older. With todays high pressure jobs and everyone on the go, I need the sanity of just me, my blacklight, full or new moon, my favorite jig or night spinnerbait and Ky or Dale Brownies to keep me straight. I enjoy night fishing and winter fishing MUCH more than the spring and summer days with all the idiot boat traffic. Trade her out some additional fishing trips for you with some of the things that she might like to do as well. This could get you more on the water plus help her realize that fising is just important to you as her activities would be and a marriage today is 100% / 100% not 50/50. If it is money issues then MSG is right to try to fish closer to home, smaller lakes that use the trolling motor gas versus the big motor gas. Find a buddy that likes to fish and his wife is friends with your wife and hook the ladies up on the days you go fishing with your buddy. These are just suggestions and I am no marriage counselor but food for thought. Good Luck

[wishniwasfishn]

Hey Steve, I actually got very lucky, in my 20 years with my wife she has never gotten angry because i wanted to go fishing, and now that my son is 14 years old, she is very happy when i take my son with me. Of course every time i fish, my wife and daughter are shopping, so it cost me double. My suggestion is take her with you, maybe if she see's how much you enjoy it, she will get over it.

[DJD]

the video on the front page makes me realize i am not alone in this situation so i thought i'd ask,how many of us on here have a problemed relationship or failed one,marriage or not due to the fishin drug.I have been told the first time i go to a tournament i will recieve divorce papers,she even gets ticked if i go all night with my dad.How can this be dealt with,I went from going every weekend to getting to go about 9 time all last year and with drawls are killing me,i get irritated and very grouchy if i don't get my fishin fix.she even keeps a log of how long i'm gone. help from others that have had this problem..

Did she know you fished before you were married? No doubt it can strain a relationship but it doesn't have too. Compromise is they key! Good luck...

[know1]

the video on the front page makes me realize i am not alone in this situation so i thought i'd ask,how many of us on here have a problemed relationship or failed one,marriage or not due to the fishin drug.I have been told the first time i go to a tournament i will recieve divorce papers,she even gets ticked if i go all night with my dad.How can this be dealt with,I went from going every weekend to getting to go about 9 time all last year and with drawls are killing me,i get irritated and very grouchy if i don't get my fishin fix.she even keeps a log of how long i'm gone. help from others that have had this problem..

That really doesn't make much sense. Are there things that you're neglecting when you go fishing such as chores around the house, etc.? If she just wants you to stay home for the sake of staying home, then there may be a problem.

[TEE]

I guess I'm lucky (or not)....
I can't get away from mine because SHE's got the disease worse than I do!
When she caught her first 5 lb. smally..it was all over with
So..I go as much as I want.

[Col Forbin]

I had it written in my vows!!! lol

I actually got lucky too. I always, jokingly, told my dad I would marry a girl from the Kentucky Lake area. Ironically it worked out that way. When we got married we lived in Georgetown, both teaching, and we decided we would like to be closer to family. She used fishing to convince me that we should move closer to her family. She told me "you know if we move to Paducah, you can fish all of the time." I acted like I had to think about it - there was never any debate in my mind. I told her I guess we could move to Western Kentucky, if that is what will make you happy!!!!!!! I guess she didn't the know about the 20 foot triton I would need for the bigger lakes!!!

[Devils Horse]

Maybe there's a problem with some kind if insecurity and she is worried you'll find someone else if you're away from her much. She could also have some control issues, if she orders you around in other ways. It could also be she needs some friends or a passtime other than you.

The problem is likely rooted in something other than just you going fishing.

Easy for people to say I'd do this or that in your shoes, but I'm completely certain if my wife kept a log of how much I went fishing or gave me some kind of ultimatum, we'd have a serious problem. The line "I'm gonna miss her" in that country song comes to mind. Women control 100 per cent of a that precious supply, and you gotta keep the channel open, but the line has to be drawn somewhere.

[mhall]

Maybe there's a problem with some kind if insecurity and she is worried you'll find someone else if you're away from her much. She could also have some control issues, if she orders you around in other ways. It could also be she needs some friends or a passtime other than you.

The problem is likely rooted in something other than just you going fishing.

Easy for people to say I'd do this or that in your shoes, but I'm completely certain if my wife kept a log of how much I went fishing or gave me some kind of ultimatum, we'd have a serious problem. The line "I'm gonna miss her" in that country song comes to mind. Women control 100 per cent of a that precious supply, and you gotta keep the channel open, but the line has to be drawn somewhere.

100% of that precious supply, Jim sometimes you crack me up. Half the money and all the....................... lol.