End of days....or just the beginning?

[Shimano4Life]

Well fellas......beginning this Saturday, there will be a Mrs. S around the house. After knowing each other for about 8 years and dating for about 4, I finally got up the nerve to pop the question to her back in January. We set THE DATE for October 3rd, 2009.

I only have a few more days on this earth as an unmarried man. My fiancee' has always been supportive of my fishing habit. It seems like every Saturday I'm fishing and she's running in 5K races. It works out very well to our advantage because we both take part in what recreation we love to do on the same day of the week. Keep in mind -- we're both 28 years old, college graduates, and have been in love with one another since we met.

My question is to all you guys that have been down this road before. Does it all REALLY change that much after you get married???? I guess I'm kinda anxious about what lies ahead, but would like to hear some input on the subject of fishing and marriage -- and anything else you guys have to say about marriage in general would be greatly appreciated. Tight lines.

[Silverado43]

Well I can tell you that I've been married for 24 years. My wife has her swimming pool I have my bass boat and my deer stand. We usually take a week each summer and do something together. She will sometimes go to the lake with me and I do spend time with her in the pool. If you haven't been living together before marriage this will take some getting used to but for me its been a great ride and I can't imagine her not being around to keep me on the straight and narrow. good luck!

[elnutsmalljaws]

My first one lasted 6 years and the only good out of that came my 2 daughters. My current one has lasted 11 years and counting and if it does not work out then I will become a Monk or Hermit for I have the GREATEST WIFE ON EARTH. No doubt things do change after you get married but it is not like an instantaneous thing. Things will change ever so gradually that one day you will look at each other and wonder about the way it used to be. Not saying that in a bad way, just in a way that things do change. I am not a marriage counselor nor will ever be one but I will give you and your soon to be wife one piece of advice.

Marriage is NOT 50/50, it is 110% / 110%. Both sides must give and both sides must take. Choose your battles wisely because you can't battle over every little thing that you disagree with or you will never stop battling. Give 110% all the time, try and do the LITTLE things that make her happy and she do the LITTLE things that makes you happy and live happily ever after. Look at problems as opportunities, look at your relationship as something that you have to WORK AT EVERYDAY, and most importantly of all NEVER NEVER stop telling and showing each other that you LOVE EACH OTHER. NEVER go to bed mad, make sure the fight is over and all is forgotten before you close your eyes and go to sleep. Tell each other you Love them when you wake up, when you hang up the phone, when you come in the door from work, and when you go to bed. Suprise her with cards, candy, flowers and other stuff just because it is a Tuesday, don't wait for a special occasion to show you love her, do it just because. Build up those brownie points before you need to cash in those brownie points and being a guy, you will need to cash in those brownie points because whether you know it or not or agree or not, you will mess up. Good Luck to you both and I wish you a long and happy marriage. Never met you but will say a prayer after posting this just for your big day and the rest of your life together.

[18'stratos]

Just the beginning! It sounds like your girl is independent and has something that she enjoys doing. That allows you free time. Yes, things do change but not dramatically and over time.
Stay in love by having time together and time apart.

[Redskeeter]

Yes it changes but the changes are what the two of you make. Sounds like you already have a pretty good arrangement and in my experiance if you want to keep it you must do a little work by planning and keeping her informed. I doubt Icould fish as much as Ido without the support of my sponser (I mean my wife)

Congratulations on the wedding.

[mhall]

Good luck, you are going to need it.

Congratulations.........I think, lol.

[chasmo]

Since you all have been dating for 4 years, surely you have taken her fishing?! When I met my wife, she said she hadn't fished much and she grew up on a creek! I put her in the creek with a rod in her hand and everything changed after she caught a 2lb smallie!!! Needless to say, she loves to fish and understands my need to fish as well. When we bought a new boat, she said we needed a bigger, faster one!! It will work out if you TRY to make it work. Your marriage will not just happen, it takes a ton of work but it is a plus that you all have been together for 8 years and should know each others' ins and outs. You have different interests which can be a good thing but it can also be a curse-time will tell. "Since we're now husband and wife, can't you come watch me run this Saturday instead of fishing?" It will come up and remember, it is ALL about give and take, if you don't give, you can't take.

Don't be nervous-she should be your best friend by now and I am sure everything will work out for the best. Just do tell her you love her everyday no matter what and store those brownie points as they come in handy at times!!

Best of luck and congratulations!!

[DJD]

Congrats! I'm divorced so all I can say is congrats.

[roadrunner]

Well I have been married to great women for 42 years and yes it will change when you say I DO. Your first priority will be a family and fishing will move down a notch. Then if you have children fishing will move down the ladder a little more. What you will find is your interest change and you may fish less but you should enjoy both fishing and your life more. Good luck and congratulations.

Beep Beep

[TunTavern]

Well fellas......beginning this Saturday, there will be a Mrs. S around the house. After knowing each other for about 8 years and dating for about 4, I finally got up the nerve to pop the question to her back in January. We set THE DATE for October 3rd, 2009.

I only have a few more days on this earth as an unmarried man. My fiancee' has always been supportive of my fishing habit. It seems like every Saturday I'm fishing and she's running in 5K races. It works out very well to our advantage because we both take part in what recreation we love to do on the same day of the week. Keep in mind -- we're both 28 years old, college graduates, and have been in love with one another since we met.

My question is to all you guys that have been down this road before. Does it all REALLY change that much after you get married???? I guess I'm kinda anxious about what lies ahead, but would like to hear some input on the subject of fishing and marriage -- and anything else you guys have to say about marriage in general would be greatly appreciated. Tight lines.

I have been married for 53 years and I agree with everything Elnut said. It has made my marriage work. Abide by those rules and you will have a great marriage.

[bassman_ky]

I have been married for 9 years and my wife has never been a problem but when my daughter was born that is when things changed. Soccer, t-ball on Saturdays kind of ruin your Saturday fishing plans. But I woundnt change any of it for the world.

[billm_usa1]

Things will all change. Her money remains her money. Your money becomes our money. It's all about sharing. There is a saying in racing that a wife is worth 10mph and then each child is another 10. Time and commitment are the 2 keys to being happy. Remeber it's much better to be happy than be right. After 28 years I am glad to be happily married. Seldom if ever have I been right.