Man, don't get old

Two months and a couple of days, and I'll be 80[maybe]. I've been living alone for 7 months now, and enjoying it as much as I can.Just me and my dawg.Guess that's about to end. I didn't realize how much my kids worried about me, till two days ago. that's the last thing I wanted was to put them in that position.I missed a phone call, and the "worry machine" started.I can't blame them, years ago when my mom developed alziemers, and my brother wanted to put her in a nursing home, I stepped in. My wife and I kidnapped her from nortern wisconson, and moved her to KY. We bought her a brand new 2 bedroom mobile home, unlimited satelite TV, and her private phone line. She lived about 90 feet from us.but eventually she said it was time to go to a nursing home. She died a month later. yeah there were rocky times, but for a couple of years, I knew she was safe and cared for. My turn is coming! Both the kids have large homes,and would welcome ME[no dawg].I told them it would be a disaster.They both work, are frugal, conservative[ not politically], and live structured lives. I DONT. They pinch pennies, and seldom part with quarters. ME, if I had a dime, I'd spend 25 cents of it. I've had a great time, loved and lost three wonderfull women. Aline from a book I read ages ago, keeps haunting me now its from lewis caroll. " the time has come, the walrus said, to talk of many things, of ships and sails, and sealing wax, and cabbages and kings"

Keep your chin up. I too dread that day when I can't take care of myself. I'm hoping it's a long way off. I've been resurrected in a sense through my surgeries and feel better now than I did 10 years ago.

My dad died before he was 61 and I just figured I would too. Now that I'm older than he was, I'm learning how to "live" again.

Kygorski, lots of guys have left this world, in their twenties and thirties. your still around at 80, the good Lord must think you are special, to give you 80 years, and he may have something for you to do for him, when you get 85 or 90 years old, my friend just thank him for each day you are above ground.

I just buried my mother last week, she was 81 and lived alone, I talked to her on the phone at 10:30 pm she was fine, went to take her breakfast the next morning and she never answered the door, I had a key to her house, so I found her, she had passed away in her sleep.

age means nothing, we all live one breath at a time, young or old we can die at any time, so if today is your last day, where do you think you will spend forever, as a dying friend of mine once said to me, he said my friend you need to pray to Jesus, don't let the Devil, cheat you out of Heaven.

This year both of my grand children will finish college,last one in August. I'd like to be there,but thats up to Him. Waterdog, passing in my sleep would be a blessing,I know how you felt when you opened that door, been there several times. I don't want my children worrying any more about the unanswered phone call.Sometimes the mind is a terrible thing to use.

Sounds like your children love you and want you with them. Maybe you would enjoy it more than you think and it could be a real blessing to you and them alike. At least its worth sitting down and talking about it with them and then giving it some real consideration.

[QUOTE=kygorski;554105]Two months and a couple of days, and I'll be 80[maybe]. I've been living alone for 7 months now, and enjoying it as much as I can.Just me and my dawg.Guess that's about to end. I didn't realize how much my kids worried about me, till two days ago. that's the last thing I wanted was to put them in that position.I missed a phone call, and the "worry machine" started.I can't blame them, years ago when my mom developed alziemers, and my brother wanted to put her in a nursing home, I stepped in. My wife and I kidnapped her from nortern wisconson, and moved her to KY. We bought her a brand new 2 bedroom mobile home, unlimited satelite TV, and her private phone line. She lived about 90 feet from us.but eventually she said it was time to go to a nursing home. She died a month later. yeah there were rocky times, but for a couple of years, I knew she was safe and cared for. My turn is coming! Both the kids have large homes,and would welcome ME[no dawg].I told them it would be a disaster.They both work, are frugal, conservative[ not politically], and live structured lives. I DONT. They pinch pennies, and seldom part with quarters. ME, if I had a dime, I'd spend 25 cents of it. I've had a great time, loved and lost three wonderfull women. Aline from a book I read ages ago, keeps haunting me now its from lewis caroll. " the time has come, the walrus said, to talk of many things, of ships and sails, and sealing wax, and cabbages and kings"[/QUOTE]

Man, I only hope to make it till 80 had have all my faculties.

Dementia and Alzheimers runs in my family.....I will be lucky to make it to 70, let alone 80. That is one of the single biggest reason I have decided not to pull the trigger on a place at KY lake. In 10-15 years, I may not even know what the eff a fishing rod is, and I surely don't want to encumber my wife with a lake house that she may not use in 10-20 years.

Keep on keeping on kygorski ..............i knew you were an old fart, but I didn't realize you're an old old fart :) :) .

Later,

Geo

[QUOTE=kygorski;554117]This year both of my grand children will finish college,last one in August. I'd like to be there,but thats up to Him. Waterdog, passing in my sleep would be a blessing,I know how you felt when you opened that door, been there several times. I don't want my children worrying any more about the unanswered phone call.Sometimes the mind is a terrible thing to use.[/QUOTE]

My elderly mother lives across town and I call her and check on her a couple times a day. I got her a phone system with a pendant that she wears around her neck. If she falls or needs help all she has to do is push a button to call me and I call 911 for her. Or she can call 911 by herself if she can't reach me. This system helps prevent too many accidental calls to 911.

As I posted yesterday she is in the hospital following an operation to remove part of her large intestine (colon cancer) and is recovering.

I'm 65 and have heart disease and it wears me out just walking into the hospital up to her room. We both live alone so I can sympathize with you about calling a loved one and not hearing them pick up the phone.

If I call her and can't reach her on the phone or have a neighbor check on her for me I end up calling the local sheriff to do a safety check on her. Sometimes she forgets to hang up the phone properly and I can't get though to her on the phone as I get a busy signal. Usually a while later she will use the phone again to make a call and figure out that it's off the hook again. She is on a phone that uses the internet service and a modem so there is no annoying loud beeping noise like AT&T has to let you know that the phone is off the hook. I have AT&T and if I leave the phone off the hook it beeps so loud that it's annoying. But I don't leave the phone off the hook. So that is a good thing.

You are lucky to have lives so long and I share your concern about growing old. It's getting harder for me to get the boat ready and hit the lakes. I took up shooting as a new hobby and still enjoy going out to the shooting range. I load up my pickup truck with all my shooting gear and drive for 30 minutes to go shooting a few times a month. It's relaxing and it makes me walk. Some one has to walk down range to setup the targets and police the trash and check where the bullet holes are located. And if I shoot at the 200 yard range I have to walk farther.

[QUOTE=waterdog101;554114]Kygorski, lots of guys have left this world, in their twenties and thirties. your still around at 80, the good Lord must think you are special, to give you 80 years, and he may have something for you to do for him, when you get 85 or 90 years old, my friend just thank him for each day you are above ground.

I just buried my mother last week, she was 81 and lived alone, I talked to her on the phone at 10:30 pm she was fine, went to take her breakfast the next morning and she never answered the door, I had a key to her house, so I found her, she had passed away in her sleep.

age means nothing, we all live one breath at a time, young or old we can die at any time, so if today is your last day, where do you think you will spend forever, as a dying friend of mine once said to me, he said my friend you need to pray to Jesus, don't let the Devil, cheat you out of Heaven.[/QUOTE]

When it's my time I hope I go like your mother did. Sorry for your loss

[QUOTE=roadrunner;554308]When it's my time I hope I go like your mother did. Sorry for your loss[/QUOTE]

We only get one mother in our lifetime and they are very special people. No one will treat you as good as your mother did. They are creators of life and developers of our lives as long as they are around.

I hope I go fast when I die and don't linger around suffering or in pain. After having a heart attack I can tell you that it is painful and until they can open up the arteries in your heart muscle and get blood to your heart it hurts. If you ever have had a muscle cramp in your leg then that's what it feels like, only it's in your chest and the muscle is your heart muscle. So you have a feeling of what the pain will be like. When muscles don't get enough oxygen they start to die and it hurts. Nitro Glycerin tablets are a God send. They help to open up constricted arteries that feed blood to the heart muscle and relieve the pain in the chest.

Many of the same feelings, all parents and grandparents gone, on both my and the wife's family sides.

I'm not making light of it. Takes me to my knees every time. Wouldn't have it any other way. Caring hurts, and yet fulfills.

Couple things make it easier for me.
1. I can still talk to them, and somehow I still feel like through my memories of times passed they talk to and guide me.
2. They don't have to pay taxes any more.........good lord hurry my day!
3. They are at a better place, where the things we struggle with each day are no longer a hindrance to joy.
4. They don't have to put up with the Taylorsville, Jamestown, or Dale Hallow launching ramps on labor or memorial day.
5. And they are all in a place safe from Trump, Hillary, and Obama.

BTW....you should here some of the things my passed Navy Father says to me when I get caught in a storm I knew was coming half-way back from the dam at Cumberland..........you all would die laughing....I know it brings a grin to my face and tear to the eye for me. :o

[QUOTE=kygorski;554105]Two months and a couple of days, and I'll be 80[maybe]. I've been living alone for 7 months now, and enjoying it as much as I can.Just me and my dawg.Guess that's about to end. I didn't realize how much my kids worried about me, till two days ago. that's the last thing I wanted was to put them in that position.I missed a phone call, and the "worry machine" started.I can't blame them, years ago when my mom developed alziemers, and my brother wanted to put her in a nursing home, I stepped in. My wife and I kidnapped her from nortern wisconson, and moved her to KY. We bought her a brand new 2 bedroom mobile home, unlimited satelite TV, and her private phone line. She lived about 90 feet from us.but eventually she said it was time to go to a nursing home. She died a month later. yeah there were rocky times, but for a couple of years, I knew she was safe and cared for. My turn is coming! Both the kids have large homes,and would welcome ME[no dawg].I told them it would be a disaster.They both work, are frugal, conservative[ not politically], and live structured lives. I DONT. They pinch pennies, and seldom part with quarters. ME, if I had a dime, I'd spend 25 cents of it. I've had a great time, loved and lost three wonderfull women. Aline from a book I read ages ago, keeps haunting me now its from lewis caroll. " the time has come, the walrus said, to talk of many things, of ships and sails, and sealing wax, and cabbages and kings"[/QUOTE]

Very well said, sir. I love the Lewis Caroll quote. Best of luck to you and your family.