That unanswered phone call is the worst.
[QUOTE=kygorski;554117]This year both of my grand children will finish college,last one in August. I'd like to be there,but thats up to Him. Waterdog, passing in my sleep would be a blessing,I know how you felt when you opened that door, been there several times. I don't want my children worrying any more about the unanswered phone call.Sometimes the mind is a terrible thing to use.[/QUOTE]
My elderly mother lives across town and I call her and check on her a couple times a day. I got her a phone system with a pendant that she wears around her neck. If she falls or needs help all she has to do is push a button to call me and I call 911 for her. Or she can call 911 by herself if she can't reach me. This system helps prevent too many accidental calls to 911.
As I posted yesterday she is in the hospital following an operation to remove part of her large intestine (colon cancer) and is recovering.
I'm 65 and have heart disease and it wears me out just walking into the hospital up to her room. We both live alone so I can sympathize with you about calling a loved one and not hearing them pick up the phone.
If I call her and can't reach her on the phone or have a neighbor check on her for me I end up calling the local sheriff to do a safety check on her. Sometimes she forgets to hang up the phone properly and I can't get though to her on the phone as I get a busy signal. Usually a while later she will use the phone again to make a call and figure out that it's off the hook again. She is on a phone that uses the internet service and a modem so there is no annoying loud beeping noise like AT&T has to let you know that the phone is off the hook. I have AT&T and if I leave the phone off the hook it beeps so loud that it's annoying. But I don't leave the phone off the hook. So that is a good thing.
You are lucky to have lives so long and I share your concern about growing old. It's getting harder for me to get the boat ready and hit the lakes. I took up shooting as a new hobby and still enjoy going out to the shooting range. I load up my pickup truck with all my shooting gear and drive for 30 minutes to go shooting a few times a month. It's relaxing and it makes me walk. Some one has to walk down range to setup the targets and police the trash and check where the bullet holes are located. And if I shoot at the 200 yard range I have to walk farther.
Sorry to hear about the loss of a loved one.
[QUOTE=roadrunner;554308]When it's my time I hope I go like your mother did. Sorry for your loss[/QUOTE]
We only get one mother in our lifetime and they are very special people. No one will treat you as good as your mother did. They are creators of life and developers of our lives as long as they are around.
I hope I go fast when I die and don't linger around suffering or in pain. After having a heart attack I can tell you that it is painful and until they can open up the arteries in your heart muscle and get blood to your heart it hurts. If you ever have had a muscle cramp in your leg then that's what it feels like, only it's in your chest and the muscle is your heart muscle. So you have a feeling of what the pain will be like. When muscles don't get enough oxygen they start to die and it hurts. Nitro Glycerin tablets are a God send. They help to open up constricted arteries that feed blood to the heart muscle and relieve the pain in the chest.