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What you are doing is right. It's your choice. You don't have to be the popular one in the family, just have to be family. Cherish the time and take good care of her. Your kids will never forget what your doing. May God bless your family. Prayers sent.. The Wells Family
You have the courage to do the right thing despite what your other family members think. They will hopefully come around to understand your compassion that you have. You are a very strong man and your wife is a very understanding woman to stand behind your decision. You have strong family morals and that is a good thing to teach your children.
May GOD be with your entire family, and have pitty on your mother as she passes.
Remember to thank your wife and show her how much you love her during this time and always. She will feel neglect and left out. Just let her know she is appreciated.
When my wifes mother was dying of cancer it seemed that I turned into a baby sitter and cook, left to take care of everything that needed to be done so she could take that time to be with her mother. Her situation was somewhat as yours. Mother gave birth and that was about it. She was always around but my wife was raised by sisters and other family members. In the end she felt peace knowing that she did the right thing. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you", "Respect thy Mother and thy Father".
Prayers sent from the Smith family.
Your doing the right thing and don't worry what anyone else has to say, they will answer one day for their deeds just like all of us will.
Rob, you're absolutely doing the right thing. Keep it up. If it's available, please consider contacting a hospice organization. They can be of great help. God Bless.
sorry to here about your mom, i know we havent had a chance to talk latley, and i know how rough it can get in your situation. it is going to be hard so hang in there. i am not a religious person but i do think things happen for a reason rather good or bad. and it is all about how you dill with what your delt if that makes sense. just do the best you can and try to be strong and all will work. i will be down at green tomorrow through wed. with the family and when i get back maybee we can get together and fish soon. i wish the best for you and your family
chuck
I have walked the walk and talked the talk for a long time and I fully believe in the Lord above. You have done what is right and you will be blessed for that. Putting others before yourself is a great thing and it is something that in this day and age I do not see alot. I have lost loved ones and it is not an easy path but to take care of them to the best of your ability is rewarding to them and you. My prayers go out.
Stay strong brother. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers...keep the faith.
Rob, my name is Dennis, and I am pretty sure there are several members have read about my trials and my rewards over the last couple of years. I have died twice due to surgeries. one I have no memory of, but the other I guess you would have to call an out of body experince. I will tell you I truely believe that there is hope in the afterlife and that we can all be a part of God's plan. I do not know why you were seperated from your mother, and for that matter it is no one else who should shun you or look down upon you for your choice to let her back in your life. There is a popular saying that I see on bumper stickers and wrist bands and it is WWJD, What would Jesus do? Well you answered that question, you took on a challenge that most folks would not do. You said that you can not understand why this all is happening to you. I have end stage renal disease and I depend on dialysis, 3 days a week and four and one half hours at each session. About a month ago I started having more pain and an infection that we have not been able to control. two weeks ago they found that my spleen was enlarged and that there were some sort of growths in it. It is cancer and I start more test this week to see if it has spread. When I first got sick with my kidneys I was so mad at God, I did not drink, or smoke or use illeagle drugs I started working when I was 13 and lead what I considered a good life, I loved my wife and daughter and I did what ever it took to make sure they had everything they needed and most of what they wanted. On the other hand I have a younger brother who has been anything but "good" a mean drunk who takes advantage of every one and every thing and when something goes wrong he blames every one else. My father was just as bad if not worse than my brother, and he had the same kidney disease I have, it is genetic, he died a very slow and painful death at the age of 54, I am 51. When I found out this last bit of news I went out and walked around with a thousand thoughts flying through my head. About midnight it started to rain and there I was standing in the rain like some kind of fool looking up and asking why me what did I do wrong why does all of this happen to me I am the good son I should not be punished. No sooner than I said those words, I was hit with shame through my very soul, I saw a white cross shining on the church not far from our house. How could I be so vain Christ was the perfect Son He never wronged anyone and he suffered for me, I did not ask him to, but he loved us all so much he did it freely he gave his life for me, and undeserving fool of a man. As I stood there it occured to me what did I do to not deserve what I am dealing with, I am no savior I have earned no free pass. I do not know what God has in his plans for me, but I will fight this disease with all I have and pray for help. I will also pray for you my friend. God has made a space in your heart for a woman who may have done you wrong but you are doing what Christ would have, you are forgiving her for your pain by helping her through hers. If your other family members do not understand this it is their loss, you are being a real man. Follow your heart and do what you feel is right. I pray that God will give you the strength that you need and that the last days of you mothers life give her more than peace. You are doing the right thing.
God bless and comfort you
Dennis
You Sir are truely my Hero!!! May God Bless you and your family. Prayers sent... Dan
I'm very sorry.
My mom had alziemers, we moved her here from Wisconson, she stayed with us for three years before she passed away When i saw how caring my second wife was to her, it told me that no matter what happens, my wife would get the best I could provide for.She was diaganosed with pancreatic cancer, had the surgery and it came back 6 months later. When we knew it terminal, I asked her if she wouldn't mind dying at home, and she said I hoped you'd ask that.It hurt like hell watching her wither away, but with the care hospice gave us, and with the care of a few good friends, she passed away very peacefully, and I knew I did the right thing.But thats not all, my first wife had a stroke that left her partially paralized. They told me, because of her age, a nursing home would be best for her. Well thatdidn't happen, for 6 years I worked and took care of her, and she did better than anyone predicted, some of those days I wanted to scream because of what God was doing to her. One morning after I had fixed her breakfast, we were talking I waqs in the living room, she in the kitchen, after a minute of silence, which was unusual for her, I went to her and thought she had dozed off, she had a massive heart attack, over in a second, and she looked so peacefull. Those six years have thought me to cope, and to know that God is merciful, in his way.I am now going through the same thing with my companion, but my faith is even stronger now. All these trials have did one thing for me, it showed that there is more care in me, than I ever imagined, and thats because of the grace of God. Don't worry about other peoples thoughts, its how you feel. and some day you will know you are doing the right thing.