My kids, when they were very young, used to say "she did it first", which I in a not so calmly way would say, "your both wrong".

Yes Mendela was a Communists. His ex-wifes favorite way to torture and kill was the burning tire trick. He did learn in his 20 some years in prison that maybe violence wasn't the way to go. That's why no one says anything about his communism. They seem to just remember the good communist and not the tire burning one.