fishin and relationships

[Cheese]

My wife and I rarely have an issue about me going fishin. Her biggest complaint is that I sleep too late (night fish all summer) when I go. I have to admit I probably don't go nearly as much as a lot of you guys do but when I'm not fishing, I do something else that has me away from the house and spending some amount of money. I am usually gone doing something at least 1/2 a day each weekend.

On the other hand, one of my buddies has to get permission from his wife before he can go and they usually fight about it. It is his ONLY hobby so I can't see why she complains so much.

This thread makes me think I am going to get my wife more flowers than I originally planned for today.

[stratosjoe]

Cat , Please don't take this wrong but I think there my be a problem deeper than the amount of time you spend fishing. I think this because of the comment about going with your father and the time log. Have you ever put a pencil to the amount of time she does something without you? If she doesn't do anything without you she might have the problem not you..just my unpaid untrained attempt at being a marriage advisor.

[CTFSHWHISKER]

it's not the money,i do side work that more than pays for my fishin,i do my chores and she definitely knew it.i fished 7 tx's the first 3 months i knew her.she even went a few times and actually said she liked going,now it's the stupidest thing she has ever seen.The first year and half was no problem,now she says all that should have been out of my system before i got married or i should have stayed single.i may as well go to a strip club it wouldn't be much different.i can't even get on here unless she's in bed,i am on here talking to my lovers.looks like i may be the only one yall are lucky...

[jcb]

the video on the front page makes me realize i am not alone in this situation so i thought i'd ask,how many of us on here have a problemed relationship or failed one,marriage or not due to the fishin drug.I have been told the first time i go to a tournament i will recieve divorce papers,she even gets ticked if i go all night with my dad.How can this be dealt with,I went from going every weekend to getting to go about 9 time all last year and with drawls are killing me,i get irritated and very grouchy if i don't get my fishin fix.she even keeps a log of how long i'm gone. help from others that have had this problem..

I think the key is "Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also."

My wife's primary need is that she be first in my life and heart. If I chose to fish every weekend, she might be able to cope, or adapt, but deep down she'd figure out that I valued fishing more than her. The way to spell love is t-i-m-e.

I don't mean to "preach" to anyone else. I'm just relating what I believe is true in my own marriage.

CTFSHWHISKER, one piece of advice I could offer is find a nearby wading hole. I can "get my fix" in a couple hours time, and spend just a little bit of money, or even nothing at all. Not to mention the great exercise.

[Trophycats]

Why is it that women try to change a man, and then later they complain that you are not the man they married? I know it is easy for me to say, but I would go fishing, you are not happy in this situation, and a man has to be happy. And if i come home to a empy house, oh well, just more room to store fishing tackle.

[biggw]

Me fishing is the very reason i have been married for 38 years lol Like i have always told her don, t ever make me choose between her or fishing..But you do have to be there for the important times and its not being there when mother in-law shows up lol

[LarryG]

Maybe you got off on the wrong foot at the begining. Before my first marriage, I and my whole family told my beloveded that i was a fishing addict,and it was not going to change.She understood that. My second wife was informed of that same fact, and I told her that if it was going to be a problem, then we were not meant for each other, she agreed, that was my only stipulation. my present lady friend knows about my problem, again I told her she is always welcome, and thats the wayit is. I am widowed twice, and both wives knew that an extramarital affair, would interfewre with my fishing, and both said i'd probably rather fish than screw around, and its true.There are a lot of women out there, but only a few good fishing spots!!!!!!

[Devils Horse]

Half the money and all the....................... lol.

Correction Mark. All the money AND all the .............

[gilly]

she doesn't care if you go fishing. she's just trying to see if she can be boss. a lot of women try this when they're first married, especially the ones with some kind of complex. take care of your responsibilities first, then go fishing. be a man.

[jcb]

take care of your responsibilities first

gilly,

What responsibilities are you referring to?

[Cobra190]

" You Have a Sickness".....Is what I have heard for twenty years now, along with "I,m Not mad because you fish, I'm mad because you're spending time with them and not me". BUT, if the situation arises and she knows I want to fish a certain club tourney, or just want to get out on the lake and away from it all, she right there to help do whatever it takes to get me there. Club tourney, fun fishing or just getting out on the water, she knows there is always a seat open for her. Heck, the dual console was put in for her, not me!
"Whisker"... It's all meet in the middle. You each need "Me" time away from each other and things when life calls for it. In my opinion when Me times given, believe it or not you will each look forward to "Together" time and even need it from each other by sharing what gives you the best relaxation, which is your "Me time Interest".
Turn it into an AA type meeting. Hi, I'm Catfishwhisker, and I fish.. and then tell her why and what fishing gives you, and go from there.

Remember, it has always been claimed by women that they hooked a man, we men never claim to hook a woman, we know it would dull a good hook!!!!
Good Luck and Hang in There Buddy!!

[Stonewall2002]

Hook the boat up to the truck and drive as fast as you can 180 degreed in the opposite direction from her.

I have a buddy that i used to fish with every weekend when we were both single. Best firend I ever had. Then he went and married a controll freak and, well, we havnt been fishing but a handful of times since then (its been over 6 years now). He would have to beg and plead to go, and then he would be paying for it all week long. Its a no win situation for everyone. She is ticked-off, he is ticked-off, and I'm ticked off-too.

My girl, on the other hand is awesome! She encourages me to go when I havnt been in a while. She even talked me in on selling my old boat to purchase a new one! Man what a woman! Never once complained that I fish too much... heck she even goes with me from time to time!

Good luck to you.... I dont envy your situation.

Keep on chuckin'