Originally Posted by
GeoFisher
Wow........Interesting thread..........Some good advice here and LOTS of GARBAGE.
I've been married for 18 years to a WONDERFUL woman.....high school sweetheart. She's known me most of my life and KNOWS I like fishing.
BUT, when my kids were young, I didnt' do too much travelling to fish, DIDN'T own a boat, and was LUCKY to get out a couple hours a week after work. Those years were for my wife and KIDS....................I bought my first boat when my youngest was 2 or 3, and my wife was in a better position to manage the girls without me around 2 or 3 days a MONTH. These trips were NOT overnight trips........
When I did start fishing more, I made SURE I did everything with my kids and wife that I could. I coached softball, basketball, etc, etc, and went to EVERY dance function both of my girls had. AND managed to fish PLENTY. Hell, my wife even convinced me to go watch ICE HOMO's a couple times. SHe is really into ice skating, and even though it about made me PUKE, I managed to sit through some of those shows......took one for the team, so to speak.
Now that my girls are older, and both in high school, they want me around for certain functions, but I tend to fish WHENEVER I WANT, and can get away........
Lots of the posts under this thread are PLAIN SELFISH. You chose to get married, you CHOSE to have kids........YOU NEED TO MAN up........and understand that MAYBE your wife needs more help that you think. There will be PLENTY of time to fish later.
AND if you end up getting divorced, you will NEVER spend the time you should with the kids, and YOU WILL BE BROKE........from paying all the support. THINK REAL HARD ABOUT THAT........AND think about the costs of divorce vs staying married........Divorce will put your longterm goals off by 20 years, will half your income, will DESTROY your kids future, and probably limit the very think you want to do more.......
Try to work it out.....figure out a plan that works for both of you.......don't do overnight trips.......find some things that she's interested in doing, and do them with her.......
Finally, you didn't say if your wife works or not......if she doesn't TRY to convince her to get a part time job and let her KEEP all the income from it. That gives her the "mallrat" money she needs, and "balances" out the fishing costs.......
Finally, Finally........regarding the costs associated with fishing........We all know it COSTS a LOT..........I have a fixed allowance each 2 weeks. That allowance pays for gas in my truck, food, and MY entertainment. If I have money to go fishing......FINE.......if I don't, I DON'T FISH............PERIOD. She cannot bring up the costs because those costs are from my allowance.
I'm sorry if I'm sounding HARSH here but IT SHOULD.
Later,
Geo
Chad
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