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she has no hobby except the mall,every weekend every store.and no friends...
Seems to me, I'd start keeping a log of time and money spent. Play her game and trade dollar for dollar and hour for hour. With the 14 mo. old though, seems she has you by the .................... There does seem to be some kind of underlying control issue. No one can / should tell you how to handle this. Go fish and look within. Only you have the answer that will work for you, and only you have to liove with whatever course you choose to take.

Good Luck & God Bless
Mike