Lot of good advice here. I have had some of the same issues in my own marriage at different times (most issues usually arise during pre-spawn! You know what I'm talkin' about!!!). Prior to marriage, and 2 kids, I use to play softball 2 nights a week, fish as often as possible and play about 15 rounds of golf per year. As jcb put it, t-i-m-e is the heart of the issue. Spending good, quality time with your wife helps balance out everything else.

I am a work in progress, that's for sure. I do my best to make plans with my wife like I make plans to go fishing. Plan a weekend away with your wife like you make plans to go fishing. Take the lead and make plans. Let her know you have made special plans to be with her. She will really appreciate your leadership!

My 2 cents.