My mom had alziemers, we moved her here from Wisconson, she stayed with us for three years before she passed away When i saw how caring my second wife was to her, it told me that no matter what happens, my wife would get the best I could provide for.She was diaganosed with pancreatic cancer, had the surgery and it came back 6 months later. When we knew it terminal, I asked her if she wouldn't mind dying at home, and she said I hoped you'd ask that.It hurt like hell watching her wither away, but with the care hospice gave us, and with the care of a few good friends, she passed away very peacefully, and I knew I did the right thing.But thats not all, my first wife had a stroke that left her partially paralized. They told me, because of her age, a nursing home would be best for her. Well thatdidn't happen, for 6 years I worked and took care of her, and she did better than anyone predicted, some of those days I wanted to scream because of what God was doing to her. One morning after I had fixed her breakfast, we were talking I waqs in the living room, she in the kitchen, after a minute of silence, which was unusual for her, I went to her and thought she had dozed off, she had a massive heart attack, over in a second, and she looked so peacefull. Those six years have thought me to cope, and to know that God is merciful, in his way.I am now going through the same thing with my companion, but my faith is even stronger now. All these trials have did one thing for me, it showed that there is more care in me, than I ever imagined, and thats because of the grace of God. Don't worry about other peoples thoughts, its how you feel. and some day you will know you are doing the right thing.