Confirmed My Mom's terminal this week....

[cra97]

I haven't been by much the past couple weeks because I brought my mother in to live with me from NJ. She has had 3 bouts with vaginal cancer and is now been deemed terminal. I read a post about the 2 little girls dad's on here and in breaks my heart because I know the feeling (just cause you get older, doesn't make it easier). I have not had my "birth" parents in my life since I was 3, and lost my father in 2000 to colon cancer, so she's it. As much as I did not "love" her as a mother, I do love her as a child of God. I have been fighting an internal (not to mention now I am being shun by everyone else I love for my decision to take her in) about taking her into my home and getting her care at Norton where I work. My wife and I came to the conclusion that God must be leading me to take her in since it was tearing me up knowing about the situation and doing nothing. Long story short, she got her two weeks ago and has seen the best doctor's around. After running MANY tests, they said the best they can do for her is "make her comfortable as possible" (we all know that means drugs, and lots of them). They do not know how long she has because she has so many illnesses besides cancer, they are not sure what will kill her first.
I don't really have a reason for sharing this with you all, other than I know there are many good Christan men on the site who can help. I would ask that you say a prayer for her (and my wife and 4 kiddo's too) if you get a chance, that God will show mercy on her during her final days. I do not know why I took her in, or why I have lost those dearest to me for having done so, I just know it hurts me deeply at this point. I have so many other "issues" myself (with the PTSD, work, marital "problems, ect) that I am starting to wonder why God did this to me, especially NOW. I guess someday I will look back and thank him for having let me get to know her and gain solice from doing, what I FEEL is, the right thing but all I know now is that this is a painful ordeal for all of us.
I appreciate those of you who can find the time for a prayer for her, and thank the rest of you for letting me clear my chest a bit. May God bless all of you and your families!!

Rob

[redneckshadrap]

Rob,

Sorry to here brother. I guarantee everyone on here wonder why things happens the way they do at times. Some are more drastic than others.

Keep digging. "He" won't give you more than you can handle even though it may seem so.

Prayers from the Elkins family
Billy, Teresa, and Emily

[Boat Bums]

Don't sit around wondering if what you are doing is right or wrong you have already made that choice. Make the best of the time that you have left you can get back the past. Make the best of what furture you have left.



I have lost three people in my family to cancer they where all close.

Mike

Anytime you need to talk feel free!

[Boat Bums]

Sorry that should be "Can't"

[jwp]

It will work out. Hang in there.

My grandfather once told me that everything that hapens, happens for the best. Even though it is often not apparent until much later - perhaps even years - but when you look back, it's true. Making difficult decisions as you are doing and dealing honestly with unresolved issues that have loomed for years is how personal growth (and progress) occurs and helps us prepare for the next challenge.

Your friends here at Fishing.com are right by your side. Good luck.

John

[DJD]

Been through silmiliar circumstances with family and Cancer myself lately, hang in there. God says we are to honor our parents and you have so your on the right track with your decisions.
The other loved ones will hopefully learn from your grace and be freed from their own turmoil even though it make take time. God Bless and we will keep you in our prayers.
Don

[shawnrd81]

According to the good book you are making some great decisions. Don't worry what others think as long as you are happy with yourself everything will work out the way he has planned for you. Keep doing what you are doing!

[td176]

Sounds like you have made the right decisions for you, If others shun you then that in my opinion is there problem not yours. For what you have done I would say you are a good man. As long as you feel that you have done the right thing then don't worry about what others say. God Bless you and your Family

[thebassman30]

Rob,
Here is some hope:
For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain.
Philippians 1:21

I believe Paul is waiting to be possibly executed at this time so the whole first chapter of Philippians can give you tremendous hope.
You and your family are in our prayers,
The Bells

[birdstrike]

Rob,
You're not only doing the right thing for you mother but showing your kids how a responsible family man takes care of family. A good lesson in family values and morales. God help you and your family get through this tough time.

Steve

[raporter]

Rob,
You're not only doing the right thing for you mother but showing your kids how a responsible family man takes care of family. A good lesson in family values and morales. God help you and your family get through this tough time.

Steve

Couldn't have said it better. A man does what a man has to do.

[thunderstorm]

Rob,

Prayers for you, your family, and your Mom. It is a difficult time to be sure. You are a good man to do this and it will not be easy.

I struggle every day to keep my Christian outlook on things here. MY MIL has lived w/ my wife and I for 4 1/2 years. I admire my wife for taking the time in her life to care for her Mom, but I sometimes despise our marital situation. It will be tough on your wife as well as you...keep that in mind if she gets upset occasionally.

Good luck to you.