Yes, please dont feel guilty or bad.

Things are different now, I am 23 and people my parents age and especially my grandparents age were getting married at 16 and popping them out left and right like it was nothing.

On top of that, young people are maturing earlier then ever, it could be from a more complete diet or perhaps even the massive amounts of hormones put in foods today. Then add the general openness of sexuality in todays society as compared to one or two generations ago PLUS the pressure to not just finish high school but also college before settling down is just insane. For young people that are maturing at 12 or 13 to be told to hold in those built up rages for another 10 years is tough ( I am NOT advocating sexual active 12 year olds!!!). Their grandparents probably matured at 13 14 or maybe 15 and were married by the time they were 18.

Im not making any excuses or even hinting at judging your parental practices but these are reasons why I think abstinence is a joke. I am fairly conservative but I think refraining from education and just telling them not to do it wont work.

I have a 2 year old and while I do hope she waits until she is married, I will make sure that she is educated about sex...i will leave the education up to her mom though!