I appreciate you "locking down" the other thread, as it was getting a bit personal. Some people were assuming the worst on my part, like putting fishing before my kids and messed up priorities, but I was not going to respond to them because I was not POSITIVE and was really kind of ashamed at what the underlying reason was until recently.
I found out a that my wife had "re-connected" with a boyfriend she had 13 years ago at a party a couple months back, but had no proof to such. In a recent fit of anger I decided to figure out how to look at my cell phone bill online and found over 119 calls, for a total of about 1000 minutes to this guy in 24 days. All happened while I WAS HOME with the kids, or when we were asleep at night (apparently he works the night shift so 2-4am are prime talking times for them). I confronted her a few days ago and she admitted to the whole thing, big suprise when I am holding a highlighted printout of the bill ehh?
I am only mentioning this on here now because I saw how easy it was for people to "assume" I was the culprit in this and NOT the victim. This is not to say I am innocent by any stretch, as I am sure i have not been perfect to live with and the long deployments to war changed her (and me) a little each time. I still do not think I deserved to be cheated on, they could have at least waited until she had TOLD me she wanted out. Better yet, its only 60 days to wait till they can do what they want without involving me at all. It hurts badly to even type this, but I could not let those last comments about me neglecting my kids go without saying something, so the truth is best no matter how it makes me feel/look.
As a note, I NEVER miss a practice or chance to play catch in the yard with my kids, as a matter of fact we play EVERY night at some point cause they look forward to it. I leave AFTER they go to bed to fish tournies so they don't have to say "good-bye" and just sleep in my truck. I have no family here in this state, I moved here because it is where she is from and I did not have a reason to say "no" when we discussed it. My fishing and boat are all I have most nights going forward cause I don't drink and don't like going out, especially alone. Crowds scare me and the idea of meeting women again is enough to give me an anxiety attack.
I already agreed to pay MORE than I am required to by the state in "child support" because the children ARE my life. I was only asking for a way to save my one vice, not saying I was going to give up or neglect the most important thing in my life....MY CHILDREN.
Sorry to ramble but I don't have ANYONE here to talk to and my family is not exactly a "close nit" group, so they are out. I appreciate the many supportive posts, PM's, and apologize for not fully disclosing the adultery thing upfront but I am not exactly proud of it happening to me and my kids.
I am no longer worried about what to do with the boat anyway, it will be what it will be and whatever. At this point I don't really care about anything to do with my life, but my kids. I have "lost my religion" in the mix of all this and spend most of my time reliving 13 years for answers that I cannot find. All it is doing is sending me into a deeper and deeper depression so who knows, and at this point who cares.
Rob
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I fish from the bank, I loaned my boat to my best friend and aint got it back yet!
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