Thanks Grumpy.........

[Big Gills]

Yes thanks Grumpy for locking that thread. It was so negative and critical and in poor taste to pick on a person when they are down. Way too much assuming going on there. I will say some prayers for you Rob and wish you strength on this difficult journay you have to make. You are so fortunate to have those 4 wonderful children who will always be with you for life. Take care, Margie

[Embrey]

id say after all that, you should be entitled to keep whatever the hell you want...and maybe her sister

[slippedcork]

id say after all that, you should be entitled to keep whatever the hell you want...and maybe her sister

Are you another republican?

[Embrey]

Are you another republican?

if i had to pick one i guess...but i do hate obama...thanks for playing,but, what does that have to do with this at all

[GeoFisher]

if i had to pick one i guess...but i do hate obama...thanks for playing,but, what does that have to do with this at all

Better be, if you're getting in my **** boat

OK..........kidding........I had the most Liberal, Obama Lovin, Socialist in the universe on the boat this past weekend............

Funny thing.......we discussed politics all the way to the lake.....TALKED NONE about it on the lake, or in the hotel, and talked politics ALL the WAY BACK........

Funny how that works................

Eddie, if you are on here..........you're GOOD PEOPLE

Later,

Geo

[Embrey]

Better be, if you're getting in my **** boat

OK..........kidding........I had the most Liberal, Obama Lovin, Socialist in the universe on the boat this past weekend............

Funny thing.......we discussed politics all the way to the lake.....TALKED NONE about it on the lake, or in the hotel, and talked politics ALL the WAY BACK........

Funny how that works................

Eddie, if you are on here..........you're GOOD PEOPLE

Later,

Geo

i know enough about politics to know they all **** and talking about it ***** even more...lol

[bassiusmaximus]

Keep yer head up. I come from a long line of divorces in my family. Dad married 5 times. Brother 5 times. Best friend 5 times. I am on #2. Now my wifes parents were married for over 50 years and so were my grandparents. I think it's harder in this day and age for a marriage to last as long do to constant outside influences and options. What makes it hard to me is the kids. Starting over is hard but not impossible. Believe me I have seen my dad and brother and best friend wiped out financially over and over and have each recovered as unbelievable as it seems. Lifes a book and your just beginning a new chapter. Don't be afraid of it. Embrace your newfound freedom and start setting goals for yourself. You are the only person on this planet you can control. Try not to focus on the sense of betrayal from your wife or it will eat you alive. She changed and wanted to go a different direction with her life and that was her decision. It doesn't mean it was a good one on her part, but it was her's to make and live with for the better or worst. Better her make that decision than you both living a lie for the rest of your lives. Now you have an opportunity take advantage of it and make your life what you want it to be. Do it for yourself and for your kids. Heck I'd do it out of spite if for no other reason. And don't worry there are plenty of other women out there waiting to take advantage of you.

[cra97]

Funny you should say "her sister" cause she is SMOKIN and a sweetheart, just could NEVER even think of seeing her "that way". I still remember the bracefaced little girl at my wedding and would have NEVER thought she would have turned out the woman she is today. Someone will be VERY lucky to get her as she is an AWSOME lady (to bad her sister, my wife, isn't more like her).

[Embrey]

Funny you should say "her sister" cause she is SMOKIN and a sweetheart, just could NEVER even think of seeing her "that way". I still remember the bracefaced little girl at my wedding and would have NEVER thought she would have turned out the woman she is today. Someone will be VERY lucky to get her as she is an AWSOME lady (to bad her sister, my wife, isn't more like her).

sounds like you got work to do then...

[DJD]

Once it's over I recommend not to get seriously involved for YEARS! You will for the most part be making a mistake iff you do. Learn to live on your own with the new rules and enjoy your kids. You don't need to find another wife or girlfriend it will be to easy to compare her to the old one and a rebound relationship is doomed to fail.
Get out and have fun...date but don't remarry....give it time.

[Tyme2fish]

It doesn't matter if divorce is her fault or your fault. Divorce is still traumatic and painful.
I was married in 1974 and then wife divorced me in 1978. I asked her, "What happened? Did I do something wrong?" Her answer puzzled me for a little while and then I accepted the parting. Her answer was a question. (Isn't that the way most women are?)

The question was, "How do we fall in love?" She was just stating that she no longer loved me and for no particular reason. We were both still fairly young and no children were involved. We had just graduated from college and owned nothing. What was hers, was hers, and what was mine was hers.

I remarried 2 years later and have remained with my "new" wife for 30 years with two fine boys from the marriage.

As dark as things appear right now, life WILL GET BETTER.

Hang in there Ron.

[Gethenet]

Hey cra97,

Lots of good advice in the replies above. May not be any better but now here's mine. I know your pain. I was there exactly 10 years ago this month. 1st thing. Don't go this alone. You mention you live in/near Louisville and not having anyone to talk to, I'm sure there are some very good singles groups there full of folks just like us. Not the kind for finding the next Mrs. cra97 but for emotional healing. Also, this will help you learn to build meaningful relationships(not just the female kind). I struggle in that area too but have come a long way and now I understand the value there. This will also help you to strengthen the relationship to your kids. No explanation needed to understand the value there. 2nd You mentioned the possiblilty of bankruptcy too. If you get Fox News check out Dave Ramsey. He's a Christian personal finance expert. His show, books, and/or website will be invaluable for getting your finaces healthy again. 3rd you'll notice I haven't mentioned going out, dating, remarriage. DON'T even think of dating for at least 18 months! With the other stuff I've mentioned above you won't have time anyway. Any you know what? As hard as it will be, you'll be so busy with "personal improvement" that you'll have less time to think and by the time you get to the other end of this dark tunnel, you'll like where you are.

My prayers are with you,
CP