Thanks Grumpy.........

[cra97]

Funny you should say "her sister" cause she is SMOKIN and a sweetheart, just could NEVER even think of seeing her "that way". I still remember the bracefaced little girl at my wedding and would have NEVER thought she would have turned out the woman she is today. Someone will be VERY lucky to get her as she is an AWSOME lady (to bad her sister, my wife, isn't more like her).

[Embrey]

Funny you should say "her sister" cause she is SMOKIN and a sweetheart, just could NEVER even think of seeing her "that way". I still remember the bracefaced little girl at my wedding and would have NEVER thought she would have turned out the woman she is today. Someone will be VERY lucky to get her as she is an AWSOME lady (to bad her sister, my wife, isn't more like her).

sounds like you got work to do then...

[DJD]

Once it's over I recommend not to get seriously involved for YEARS! You will for the most part be making a mistake iff you do. Learn to live on your own with the new rules and enjoy your kids. You don't need to find another wife or girlfriend it will be to easy to compare her to the old one and a rebound relationship is doomed to fail.
Get out and have fun...date but don't remarry....give it time.

[Tyme2fish]

It doesn't matter if divorce is her fault or your fault. Divorce is still traumatic and painful.
I was married in 1974 and then wife divorced me in 1978. I asked her, "What happened? Did I do something wrong?" Her answer puzzled me for a little while and then I accepted the parting. Her answer was a question. (Isn't that the way most women are?)

The question was, "How do we fall in love?" She was just stating that she no longer loved me and for no particular reason. We were both still fairly young and no children were involved. We had just graduated from college and owned nothing. What was hers, was hers, and what was mine was hers.

I remarried 2 years later and have remained with my "new" wife for 30 years with two fine boys from the marriage.

As dark as things appear right now, life WILL GET BETTER.

Hang in there Ron.

[Gethenet]

Hey cra97,

Lots of good advice in the replies above. May not be any better but now here's mine. I know your pain. I was there exactly 10 years ago this month. 1st thing. Don't go this alone. You mention you live in/near Louisville and not having anyone to talk to, I'm sure there are some very good singles groups there full of folks just like us. Not the kind for finding the next Mrs. cra97 but for emotional healing. Also, this will help you learn to build meaningful relationships(not just the female kind). I struggle in that area too but have come a long way and now I understand the value there. This will also help you to strengthen the relationship to your kids. No explanation needed to understand the value there. 2nd You mentioned the possiblilty of bankruptcy too. If you get Fox News check out Dave Ramsey. He's a Christian personal finance expert. His show, books, and/or website will be invaluable for getting your finaces healthy again. 3rd you'll notice I haven't mentioned going out, dating, remarriage. DON'T even think of dating for at least 18 months! With the other stuff I've mentioned above you won't have time anyway. Any you know what? As hard as it will be, you'll be so busy with "personal improvement" that you'll have less time to think and by the time you get to the other end of this dark tunnel, you'll like where you are.

My prayers are with you,
CP