Keep yer head up. I come from a long line of divorces in my family. Dad married 5 times. Brother 5 times. Best friend 5 times. I am on #2. Now my wifes parents were married for over 50 years and so were my grandparents. I think it's harder in this day and age for a marriage to last as long do to constant outside influences and options. What makes it hard to me is the kids. Starting over is hard but not impossible. Believe me I have seen my dad and brother and best friend wiped out financially over and over and have each recovered as unbelievable as it seems. Lifes a book and your just beginning a new chapter. Don't be afraid of it. Embrace your newfound freedom and start setting goals for yourself. You are the only person on this planet you can control. Try not to focus on the sense of betrayal from your wife or it will eat you alive. She changed and wanted to go a different direction with her life and that was her decision. It doesn't mean it was a good one on her part, but it was her's to make and live with for the better or worst. Better her make that decision than you both living a lie for the rest of your lives. Now you have an opportunity take advantage of it and make your life what you want it to be. Do it for yourself and for your kids. Heck I'd do it out of spite if for no other reason. And don't worry there are plenty of other women out there waiting to take advantage of you.