No offense intended Bob, but it that is what happened to you, you left yourself open for it to happen.

When I invite someone to go fishing with me in my boat which i intend to pull, especially if its the first time, then I lay out the game plan when I issue the invitation. i,e, what time and where I will meet them; what lake we are going to and how long I expect to stay; what they need to bring for themselves (lunch, dinner, PFD, water/soft drinks, blacklight, etc); and any other information I think they need to know. After I have fished with them a few times, I don't feel I need to be so specific but I definately am the first time. Also, since I am probably going anyhow, I don't expect them to pay any expense for a daytime trip but if they offer to help with the gas I may accept that, depending on how well I know them. Also, I always tell them that they MUST WEAR A PFD when the big moter is running and that they cannot pee off the side of the boat but must use the urinal I have in the boat.

if they balk at any of these things or fail to follow my requests on the water, then they don't get a second invitation. Actually, I have found that being this specific is appreciated by most people and definately avoids problems.

That what I do,

Grumpy