Prayers needed...

[Chubminnow]

Yea I hear ya....heck with sports of any kind, I seriously could give a squat less about UK, UL, IU, Illini, football, basketball, college, professional or whatever...it's all a waste of time in my opinion. The real deal is exactly what you're talking about...sorry to hear about what God has thrown in your lap this time. I really don't know you at all Elwood...but I can tell you with 100% confidence that in some cases it simply does not matter how good of an upbringing a child has, in some cases a child who was reared in a good solid home just has to go out there and make his or her mistakes and HOPEFULLY he or she will learn from their mistakes.

I have a couple of examples of it in my own family...my sister's daughter (my niece) had three kids by three different sperm donor's...none of them (including my niece) were capable of being responsible for raising children, long story short my sister got stuck with raising not only her own daughter but also her three grandchildren. She raised them from the ages of about 2 years, 4 years and 6 years on up to high school level, at which point nature took it's course, all three kids got to be pretty good size for the britches they wore and they too made some of their own life changing decisions.

Another example...I have two step-kids, a boy and a girl...my wife is the epitome of the perfect mom, look up the phrase perfect mom and you will see a picture of my wife, she raised a beautiful young lady who turns 26 this year...she also raised a son who has been sitting in the Jefferson County Corrections center since July of 2010 awaiting his trial/hearing before going on to the big house. Two kids, same mom, same step-dad but totally 100% different as night and day.

I'm just giving you these examples to let you know that you're definitely alone in this ordeal. We never really know for sure what our plans in life are. Just take it one day at a time and take things as they get handed to you. Heck Elwood, with all the surgery crap you've been through I'd say....well....I don't know what to say except that I know you and your wife are going to do the best you know how with the means you have available.

[kygorski]

Elwood, when I'm feeling put upon, and asking why me? You post.I'm lucky enough to have had two great children,who have themselves raised steady young adults who will no problem to their parents.After my first wife died, almost a year later I met a wonderful woman when it became apparent that I was serious and not looking for a shack job, she told mr she had baggage.Then began a tale that would have made scheherazd envious.4 of 5 kids on drugs,one facing life in prison, three divorces,and she bought an old house that she loved because of the trees and lilacs.She said I was a nice guy who didn't need her problems, but the arabian nights, I needed to see how this hand would play out.Pneumonia twic for her, menningitis once,copd, macular degeneration starting,and finally cancer.Those three divorces were her children. One of the saddest things I remember was the last visit to her imprisoned son, on the way home she said her woes would soon be over, but she asked me to always write to her son, and try to help him as much as I could,I visit him, not as often as I'd like to.and writye him often.He has all his life to pay for his mistakes, and it wont get any better,