Elwood, when I'm feeling put upon, and asking why me? You post.I'm lucky enough to have had two great children,who have themselves raised steady young adults who will no problem to their parents.After my first wife died, almost a year later I met a wonderful woman when it became apparent that I was serious and not looking for a shack job, she told mr she had baggage.Then began a tale that would have made scheherazd envious.4 of 5 kids on drugs,one facing life in prison, three divorces,and she bought an old house that she loved because of the trees and lilacs.She said I was a nice guy who didn't need her problems, but the arabian nights, I needed to see how this hand would play out.Pneumonia twic for her, menningitis once,copd, macular degeneration starting,and finally cancer.Those three divorces were her children. One of the saddest things I remember was the last visit to her imprisoned son, on the way home she said her woes would soon be over, but she asked me to always write to her son, and try to help him as much as I could,I visit him, not as often as I'd like to.and writye him often.He has all his life to pay for his mistakes, and it wont get any better,