Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen

[jcb]

LOL yeah I had the soap once or twice myself.

The best way to be a good parent is to be a good person. Kids are most likely to imitate whatever behavior we model for them. My two are already better people than I am.

[roadrunner]

I never shot a lap top however when my son and daughter were young and my wife had told them repeatedly to pick up their toys and she was not going to tell them again and they ignored her, I told them pick up your toys now or I will pick them up. After about a minute of no reaction I got up went over and picked up one of each of their favorite toys went to the kitchen with them following me and begging me to give them their toys back I opened the Trash masher dropped the toys in and pushed the button they fell on the floor crying while the trash masher was making this terrible noise. I then opened the trash masher for them to see their favorite toys smashed again they fell to the floor crying, I headed to the living room to pick up more toys however they beat me to it and all I had to do was tell them that they need to do what they were told and usually got good results. My son is 38 and Daughter is 40 and I am very proud of both of them.

All of us can remember to this day the noise that trash masher made crushing those toys and that was about 32-34 years ago

[Netboy Extraordinaire]

FIRM FAIR CONSISTENT - 3 rules to live by in being a parent. I did not say TIMEOUT. Timeout is what Coaches call in Sports. Timeouts to discipline a child is the BIGGEST JOKE a Parent can do and the BIGGEST MISTAKE the parent can do to the child. Bust their Butts and Discipline them when they are young or Bail them out of Juvenile Detention or Jail later, take your pick. Kids have no respect for their parents. Kids don't FEAR their parents. I have a 23, 21 and 8 yr old. Between the 3 of them, they got their Behinds spanked less than 10 times COMBINED. That is a little over 3 spankings each in their life. They were good kids but they were also scared to screw up because they had to deal with me. I never beat them, never left a welt, never used any object but my right hand to bust their tails and yes their butts were red and my hand hurt. Parents have to discipline to where the child remembers the last disciplining right before they are about to do something they know they are not supposed to do. I remember the BELT when I screwed up. I messed up so many times my Dad was like a Ninja Warrior in that he could have the belt buckle loose, the belt pulled thru every pant loop, doubled up and crack my behind about 5 good whacks before I could say Jackie Chan. Kids NEED Discipline

[CATCHEMALL]

I also watched the video and if you pay attention to it he had tried talking with her before when he had grounded her for something similar. Apparently she did not learn so now on to step two that I really liked. Now step three where she has to repay him for the money he spent plus the cost of the bullets. I think that is great. I also believe if you teach your kids at a very young age to respect their parents stuff like this wont happen.

[DJD]

I'm a believer in spanking a child if they need it. More folks should and I get reminded of that everytime I go to Walmart!!! Geez

[bassin_bug]

I'm a believer in spanking a child if they need it. More folks should and I get reminded of that everytime I go to Walmart!!! Geez

Kids misbehaving in Walmart tells me they are just carrying on with the same bad behavior that is allowed at home. It makes me think someone should slap the soup out of mama for allowing all that whining and screaming to continue. They walk around like they are deaf while their brat annoys the heck out of all the other shoppers.

There are some better class stores that will send the security guard to ask the parents to quiet their kids down or take them out of the store. They explain that the kids are disturbing other shoppers.

[bassin_bug]

There's nothing Dr. Spock-ish about going to your teenager if there is a problem instead of trying to play Chuck Norris on her Facebook wall. The biggest challenge in parenting teenagers is not being tough on them, it's communicating with them. What he did was a lot easier than actually sitting down with her.

From what I read in the written version, and in the video, was that the father had already sat down with her several times and had that conversation and given his daughter warnings before. She thought she would play the 'hotshot' role by posting her crap on Facebook believing she had her parents blocked from reading it but forgot her father was an IT worker. I think she wanted to play the badass role to make her friends believe she was in control at her house.

If she is 'bad' enough to post her crap on Facebook, she should be bad enough to sit up and take it while her father tells his side of the story and the consequences for her disrespect. There are just some hardheaded teenagers you can't "communicate" bad conduct out of and more drastic measures have to be taken.

[jcb]

If she is 'bad' enough to post her crap on Facebook, she should be bad enough to sit up and take it while her father tells his side of the story and the consequences for her disrespect. There are just some hardheaded teenagers you can't "communicate" bad conduct out of and more drastic measures have to be taken.

I'm all for drastic measures if necessary. But I still say those drastic measures are MUCH more likely to have a good result if handled face-to-face rather than posted on Facebook. I still say, it's the coward's way out.

[jcb]

He could have had the very same talk--heck, even shot up her laptop of he thought it necessary--with her face to face. The ONLY thing he brought into the equation by posting it on Facebook was to embarrass her in front of millions of people. If anyone thinks getting publicly humiliated by your dad brings something positive into the equation, makes her more likely to change her ways, you definitely do not understand how teenagers think.

[bassin_bug]

He could have had the very same talk--heck, even shot up her laptop of he thought it necessary--with her face to face. The ONLY thing he brought into the equation by posting it on Facebook was to embarrass her in front of millions of people. If anyone thinks getting publicly humiliated by your dad brings something positive into the equation, makes her more likely to change her ways, you definitely do not understand how teenagers think.

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"You definitely do not understand how teenagers think."

REALLY! How many do you have to have before you begin to understand how teenagers think? I have a biological son and daughter and an adopted daughter......Just how many does it take, TWENTY AND COUNTING?

I'm just curious how you managed to gain so much insight into how teenagers think.

[jcb]

Bug, I believe that you can understand how teenagers think with one child, or with a dozen. You can understand how teenagers think without actually being a parent of one, as a matter of fact. You can also NOT understand how teenagers think with one child, or with a dozen, or with none.

It has nothing to do with how many teens you've raised.

As to my insight, I've offered my opinion just like everyone else. If you disagree with it, say so. If you have some life experiences that show how publicly humiliating your children has worked out for you and them, great - share it. We can all learn something from someone else.

[pontooner]

Since when is getting revenge against your kid considered good parenting? That's all this video is, he tries to one up her on the social network side of things.