Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen

[bassin_bug]

There's nothing Dr. Spock-ish about going to your teenager if there is a problem instead of trying to play Chuck Norris on her Facebook wall. The biggest challenge in parenting teenagers is not being tough on them, it's communicating with them. What he did was a lot easier than actually sitting down with her.

From what I read in the written version, and in the video, was that the father had already sat down with her several times and had that conversation and given his daughter warnings before. She thought she would play the 'hotshot' role by posting her crap on Facebook believing she had her parents blocked from reading it but forgot her father was an IT worker. I think she wanted to play the badass role to make her friends believe she was in control at her house.

If she is 'bad' enough to post her crap on Facebook, she should be bad enough to sit up and take it while her father tells his side of the story and the consequences for her disrespect. There are just some hardheaded teenagers you can't "communicate" bad conduct out of and more drastic measures have to be taken.

[jcb]

If she is 'bad' enough to post her crap on Facebook, she should be bad enough to sit up and take it while her father tells his side of the story and the consequences for her disrespect. There are just some hardheaded teenagers you can't "communicate" bad conduct out of and more drastic measures have to be taken.

I'm all for drastic measures if necessary. But I still say those drastic measures are MUCH more likely to have a good result if handled face-to-face rather than posted on Facebook. I still say, it's the coward's way out.

[jcb]

He could have had the very same talk--heck, even shot up her laptop of he thought it necessary--with her face to face. The ONLY thing he brought into the equation by posting it on Facebook was to embarrass her in front of millions of people. If anyone thinks getting publicly humiliated by your dad brings something positive into the equation, makes her more likely to change her ways, you definitely do not understand how teenagers think.

[bassin_bug]

He could have had the very same talk--heck, even shot up her laptop of he thought it necessary--with her face to face. The ONLY thing he brought into the equation by posting it on Facebook was to embarrass her in front of millions of people. If anyone thinks getting publicly humiliated by your dad brings something positive into the equation, makes her more likely to change her ways, you definitely do not understand how teenagers think.

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"You definitely do not understand how teenagers think."

REALLY! How many do you have to have before you begin to understand how teenagers think? I have a biological son and daughter and an adopted daughter......Just how many does it take, TWENTY AND COUNTING?

I'm just curious how you managed to gain so much insight into how teenagers think.

[jcb]

Bug, I believe that you can understand how teenagers think with one child, or with a dozen. You can understand how teenagers think without actually being a parent of one, as a matter of fact. You can also NOT understand how teenagers think with one child, or with a dozen, or with none.

It has nothing to do with how many teens you've raised.

As to my insight, I've offered my opinion just like everyone else. If you disagree with it, say so. If you have some life experiences that show how publicly humiliating your children has worked out for you and them, great - share it. We can all learn something from someone else.

[pontooner]

Since when is getting revenge against your kid considered good parenting? That's all this video is, he tries to one up her on the social network side of things.