We could use some prayers here

[Tim_T]

Well folks, my wife and I are having a huge struggle right now with a lot of guilt and depression. We found out last night that our 16-year-old daughter is pregnant. This is still hard to comprehend and last night was filled with lots of drinking, talking and crying. This is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life and if you guys could send some up for us it would be greatly appreciated!

[DJD]

Buddy you got it! I never dealt with that but I can see the mixed emotions. Hang in there brother!!

[mhall]

Prayers sent Tim, hang in there buddy. With God's help and some determination things will work themselves out.

[mhall]

Tim, one more thing. There is no doubt you, your wife and especially your daughter's lives have just changed drastically. However there are many stories of these types of things working out in a long term postive matter for all involved.

[steemer1]

never been through this but just let her know that you love her and will support her any way you can. Trust in GOD and it will be ok. jer 29:11

[HiDefFisherman]

Well folks, my wife and I are having a huge struggle right now with a lot of guilt and depression. We found out last night that our 16-year-old daughter is pregnant. This is still hard to comprehend and last night was filled with lots of drinking, talking and crying. This is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life and if you guys could send some up for us it would be greatly appreciated!

Tim my wife and I will be praying for you, your wife, your daughter, your whole family.

Don't get caught up in the guilt. The important thing is to make sure your daughter knows of your love and acceptance for who 'SHE' is. You can not make decisions for her, only LOVE her. Make sure she knows it.

You are in our prayers....

HDF

[fisheater]

Prayers sent Tim.Wish i knew what else to say but i would be lost right now also.

[roadrunner]

Tim T,

I will send prayers for all of you.

I want you to know I have not experienced this but I think most everyone has probably been lucky it did not happen to us or to our daughters. I know this seems like a huge problem but believe me it could be so much worse; She could be on meth or other drugs she could be an alcoholic etc.

I found out a friend's daughter is an alcoholic and tried to commit suicide. I assure you today a 16 year old being pregnant is not as bad as it initially sounds. Love her unconditionally and give that new wonderful baby all your love and it will be a blessing.

Do not feel depressed or guilty accept the hand you have been dealt and make the best of it.

I think I can say we all support you, your wife and daughter and we can be a support team.

Good luck

Steve

[kyfanatic]

I wouldn't let it get you down too bad,it's not the first time it's ever happened.
My brother ended up married to his pregnant girlfriend at that age and has been for 36 years,makes a good living for Norfolk Southern RR and has 3 children and 2 grandchildren.

I know it's too late now,but others can learn from this also,my wife put our daughter on birthcontrol at 15 even though she wasn't having sex yet,but nomatter how much you don't want it to happen it will,sooner or later.I kept my nose out of it the best I could and it worked out for the best.

Anyway I'll send a little prayer up for your family that all will work out as it should.

[zx150]

Prayers sent. Like others have said don't let it get you down.

[Dave Stewart]

Prayers are out for your family here for peace and understanding. Two years ago my stepson and his girlfriend (still in high school) announced to my wife and I that we had a baby coming....like you guys, my wife and I were frustrated and wrought over this news. I am going upstairs in a few minutes to enjoy some quality time with my grandson.....a lot of adjustments had to be made..but I wouldn't take anything for this little guy.

[bassin_bug]

Well folks, my wife and I are having a huge struggle right now with a lot of guilt and depression. We found out last night that our 16-year-old daughter is pregnant. This is still hard to comprehend and last night was filled with lots of drinking, talking and crying. This is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life and if you guys could send some up for us it would be greatly appreciated!

From a woman's point of view, I can understand how much you are hurting because you know you raised your daughter right and taught her the best values. That alone should erase the self-imposed guilt. When you have done your best, nothing else is required because you have nothing else to give. As someone else has already said, opinions have changed and pregnancy in an unmarried woman is no longer regarded as a disgrace upon the family. If I could step over into yours and your wife's shoes, I would jump into them and welcome your load rather than to have gone through what my husband and I went through.

You see, I have been where you are now and it didn't turn out well. I married a man who had a teenage daughter from a previous marriage. Her mother packed her bags and handed her over to me saying, "You are the best mother for her and I'm giving her to you." She surrendered her parental rights and I gladly adopted the girl. When she was 16 she told us that she was pregnant. My husband and I agreed to give it a few days to soak in so we could think clearly and plan a course of medical care to make sure she and the baby were healthy. We secretly talked about raising the baby so she could finish school; we talked about adoption because she wasn't thrilled about being pregnant. Once we overcame the shock I started talking about buying baby clothes and making a nursery. A week later, on her 17th birthday, she was away from the house and called to speak with her daddy. We thought something was wrong because she sounded different. He said, "Honey, are you okay; is our baby okay?" As coldly and as human can speak she said, "I'm fine now, I had an abortion today." I saw my husband lurch as though an invisible fist had slammed into his stomach; he folded over and fell to his knees and rolled with his face down in the middle of the floor. God help me, I hope I never again hear such cries as came from the depths of my husband's soul. Neither of us could speak for days, all we did was cry. We had lost a baby, a member of our family had been mercilessly murdered and our arms would never hold that precious little angel. We couldn't even give it a funeral, a proper burial, a final resting place; it was forever lost. We didn't get to plead its case or plead for its life; it was murdered to cover its mother's sins. She is now suffering horrible guilt, shame, depression, and is wondering if it was a boy or girl and what it would have been if she had let it live. The abortion has had a traumatic affect on her and she deeply regrets it but it's too late.

This is not what you had planned for your daughter but it's not the end of the world. It will be whatever you make of it so let your daughter know she has your unconditional love. She is probably hurting as bad or worse than you are. In a couple of years you will have a little shadow holding onto your fingers and teaching you a lot of lessons about love. I'm going to pray that it's a boy so you will have a little buddy to keep your fishing stories straight. My prayers are sent for you and your family. God bless and keep you.